3 Things Men Wished Women Knew
1) If he says something nice about you, it's insulting if you don't believe him.
When a man says something nice or complimentary, think of it as a gift. Most men don’t give gifts often.
Making him explain why he said something, or asking him if he really means it is the fastest way to get him to stop trying to say kind things.
The best way to respond… especially if you’re in a playful mood, smile and hold his gaze.
2) You can only get upset to the same degree that you cheer.
It is very frustrating to a man if a woman faintly notices the good things he does, and then becomes very emotional and angry when he does something rude, selfish or indifferent. The man sees her emotional intensity and wonders, “Why didn't I get that same intensity (on the positive side) when I planned that wonderful evening last weekend?”
The best way to respond… You can get upset with a man when he does something wrong, but cheer for him with the same degree of enthusiasm when he does something right.
3) He's not a mind reader.
He's a a guy. This means he only understands the “meaning b ehind the meaning” during tender moments. When you are upset with him he takes what you say literally. The more intense the disagreement, the more literal he takes what you say.
The best way to respond… When you are upset, talk softer and slower, men find such a woman captivating. No e-mails, no texting. It must be over the phone or even better, in person. Men do not pick up on social cues nearly as well as women do. Therefore, when you are having a disagreement or an important discussion you want to make certain he understood what you truly meant, and not leave it up to chance by believing he will automatically “get” what you are attempting to convey.
1) If he says something nice about you, it's insulting if you don't believe him.
When a man says something nice or complimentary, think of it as a gift. Most men don’t give gifts often.
Making him explain why he said something, or asking him if he really means it is the fastest way to get him to stop trying to say kind things.
The best way to respond… especially if you’re in a playful mood, smile and hold his gaze.
2) You can only get upset to the same degree that you cheer.
It is very frustrating to a man if a woman faintly notices the good things he does, and then becomes very emotional and angry when he does something rude, selfish or indifferent. The man sees her emotional intensity and wonders, “Why didn't I get that same intensity (on the positive side) when I planned that wonderful evening last weekend?”
The best way to respond… You can get upset with a man when he does something wrong, but cheer for him with the same degree of enthusiasm when he does something right.
3) He's not a mind reader.
He's a a guy. This means he only understands the “meaning b ehind the meaning” during tender moments. When you are upset with him he takes what you say literally. The more intense the disagreement, the more literal he takes what you say.
The best way to respond… When you are upset, talk softer and slower, men find such a woman captivating. No e-mails, no texting. It must be over the phone or even better, in person. Men do not pick up on social cues nearly as well as women do. Therefore, when you are having a disagreement or an important discussion you want to make certain he understood what you truly meant, and not leave it up to chance by believing he will automatically “get” what you are attempting to convey.
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